The conflict on the outside..........

What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you? 2 You desire and do not have, so you murder. You covet and cannot obtain, so you fight and quarrel. You do not have, because you do not ask. 3 You ask and do not receive, because you ask wrongly, to spend it on your passions. 4 You adulterous people! Do you not know that friendship with the world is enmity with God? Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God. 5 Or do you suppose it is to no purpose that the Scripture says, “He yearns jealously over the spirit that he has made to dwell in us”? 6 But he gives more grace. Therefore it says, “God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.” 7 Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. 8 Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. Cleanse your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded. 9 Be wretched and mourn and weep. Let your laughter be turned to mourning and your joy to gloom. 10 Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will exalt you James 4:1-10


The fights among us................are due to the battles within us..........the conflict on the outside........is because of the war on the inside.


Boom.


What does this mean and how can it make a difference in our relationships?

In verses 1 and 2, we find the reason for the conflicts in our relationships - this translation uses the word "passions" but others use the word "pleasures" or "desires". What they all point to is that we experience conflict because, simply put. there is something we want and if we perceive someone is blocking the fulfillment of that desire, we fight to get it.


These "passions, pleasures or desires" are not necessarily for bad things! We might long for a well-behaved child, or a loving husband, or a good night's sleep :) And if those desires (which we all too often label as "needs".....) are unmet, then we fight, quarrel, or get angry (which, by the way, Jesus explains in Matthew leads to murder).


Underneath our "desires" are foundational longings for security, acceptance, significance, love. What we might label as "wanting to be pretty" could actually be a deep God-given need for acceptance and esteem. And it probably is.
It's not wrong to want to look pretty ( or be treated respectfully or to be appreciated or to feel safe) but when we assume we can find a consistent source of attainment apart from Christ, well, that's when we run into trouble. No other person can meet those needs deeply enough to satisfy us fully.


No matter how much we might fight to get them to.


God stands ready and overwhelmingly able to meet our deepest needs.


Instead, we either fail to ask Him or we ask for the wrong thing.


Like asking for friends to make us feel better..........when He's the only one who can.


Now, granted, often He manifests Himself through the kindnesses of others. But we gotta realize that other people are just the delivery boy. God Himself is the Source for what we need.


And in verses 3-5, we see that He makes that very point by allowing us to experience conflict.


Galatians 5:17 puts it this way : For the desires of the flesh are against the Spirit, and the desires of the Spirit are against the flesh, for these are opposed to each other, to keep you from doing the things you want to do.
When we think someone or something other than God can fill our need for security or significance or acceptance, in essence, we are seeking to worship it. And God loves us too much to allow that! He doesn't need to be "made Lord" - He IS LORD! And all those lesser things that try and set themselves up on the throne of our heart are waging a useless war. HE IS LORD. He will let the battle rage but He will not step down from the Throne.


In the next few verses of this passage He explains how to resolve the conflict. How to find genuine fulfillment of those longings deep within
Verses 6 -10 - realize who He is... And who we are not. When we humble ourselves He floods our hearts with grace. With the desire and the power to obey Him This grace is what we need to trust His goodness - to submit to His authority - and to withstand the one who tempts us to believe anything else but Christ can satisfy. The grace we need to draw near to Him in worship....where we will see who He is...and who we are not. The grace that shows us our sin and breaks our hearts over our unholiness. And the grace that empowers us to be made pure, to be cleansed.
The grace that is only found in the presence of The Lord.
That's what meets our deepest needs.
That's where and only where our soul will be exalted .
And the conflict will cease. Within ... And without.
Amen.

A sun and a shield

Psalm 84:11 tells us The Lord God is a sun and shield; He gives grace and glory.  No good thing does He withhold from those who walk uprightly.

“to those who walk uprightly” – is this a promise only for those who can live perfectly? 

Thankfully no!

  Since Jesus imparts His righteousness to His followers and we do not have to depend on our own “uprightness” in order to obtain His favor, we can be confident that He is always acting as a sun and a shield in our lives.

  Sometimes as a sun, pouring forth warmth and light and power. Other times, we see His actions as a shield, protecting us  not only from what we know to be harmful but also from what we don’t know. He is a shield from everything that will not achieve His perfect plan in our lives. Even when what we think is a “good thing”…If He withholds it, even if it looks like a good thing to us, it’s not a good thing.

He gives us grace, grace to accept that what He is doing – or not giving us – is still good. Grace to embrace and obey Him.  And He gives glory…the absolute presence and essence of Himself.

  And He never withholds that – the best gift of all.

Friends for all seasons

We had a great weekend at our house recently. UGA Homecoming. Two different families came into town and we got to break some bread together. Friends from college days and newlywed years. The forever kind of friends. Even though we go long stretches without face time or even chatting, we know these people are our rock solids. The best.

And, it’s not at all why they came into town, but while they were here, we had some excitement. Our son, Chip, got to climb down off the UGA Mic Man stage at the football game and step onto the field for a few moments. Not as wide receiver or anything but nearly as fun. I got to stand beside him as his name was announced as UGA 2018 Homecoming King. Not sure what that really means, LOL, but it was fun few moments to watch.

Grateful for the honor and hoping that somehow the Lord uses this to open doors for the Gospel. That is indeed our prayer.

But a blessing it is, indeed. So grateful.

And the best part of this blessing…is YOU ALL. As soon as his name was called, every member of my family began hearing from friends who were celebrating with us. Friends who rejoiced over our good news, friends who wanted to add to our blessing, friends who shared in this season. And, y’all, we read every text, every social media comment, and appreciated every “like”. For real. We noticed and cherished every single one. I mean it. We were (are) floored by the kindnesses of our friends. Friends from college, friends from other towns. Friends from high school and hometowns. Friends from church and the neighborhood. Friends from work and the community. Even friends we’ve seen only six times a year for over a decade, sharing a row at UGA home games. It would’ve been so easy for you to just wish us well in your hearts and not reach out. You could’ve so easily thought one text wouldn’t matter. You could have….but you didn’t. You rejoiced with us and in so doing, you not only shared our joy, you multiplied it. Exponentially.

In the scheme of things, being HOCO King is probably not a big deal. Truly. But having great friends definitely is.

And, the incredible thing is, these same friends who’ve rejoiced with us this weekend, wept with us three years ago this very day. The day my Daddy told us Good-bye and told Heaven hello. These friends of ours. Showed up at our door with food (my everlasting love language!). Sent cards and text messages. Came to deliver a hug or a pound cake. Were present at his funeral service and wrapped their arms around us. Made donations in his name and continue to remember him even now. Friends. Friends for all seasons. It would’ve been much easier for you all to think your card or call or casserole wouldn’t really help. Or even be noticed. But you knew better. You knew that every single thing would deliver love and healing to our hearts. And so you came. You called. You loved. So well.

And we are so thankful. So very thankful.

For friends like you. Friends for all seasons.

Thank you.